Why help?

Many people believe that domestic violence is a private matter, to be dealt with behind closed doors.

But the truth is that domestic violence is a crime which affects the whole of society. We all have a role to play in ending it.

Why help? Because domestic violence affects you too.

You might think that domestic violence is nothing to do with you. You may be in a loving, healthy relationship with a partner who respects you. This doesn't mean that you aren't affected by domestic violence.

  • Domestic violence costs the tax payer £16 billion every year, in medical, legal and housing costs.
  • 1in4women will experience abuse at some point in their lives - which means that women in your life could be at risk.

Why help? Because you can make a difference.

It can be difficult to watch a friend or loved one being hurt by their partner. You may feel powerless and unable to help. You may not be able to fix the problem or rescue your friend, but you can still make a difference.

  • Only 16% of domestic violence is reported to the police, which means that most victims suffer in silence. By reaching out to a friend, you can help break her isolation.
  • Women who experience abuse often feel ashamed, confused and alone. They need their friends more than ever.
  • Abused women often do not realise that what they are experiencing is domestic violence. You can help your friend to recognise the signs and take steps to stay safe.

Why help? Because we all have a responsibility to speak out.

  • Domestic violence is a crime. It should be treated with the same severity as any other violent crime. It should not be ignored.
  • Domestic violence is protected by people's silence. If we do not speak out against it, we become part of the problem.

Know the signs

There's no simple way to know whether your friend is experiencing domestic violence, but there are signs that you can look out for.


Know the facts

Domestic violence is not about a row “going wrong” or someone “losing control”. On the contrary, domestic violence is all about control.


Know how to help

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